"LOVE AND THE 3 P'S"

Today I feel compelled to talk about love and the 3 P's. I rarely know if anyone reads these little Didi's, but if I get the urge to write about something I feel free to write it in here. I hope someone learns something from these writings.

A girl went to her parents and told them that she and her fellow was going to get married. The parents was rather surprised for she said she was not ever going to get married. She had a career and she was going to pursue it. Then maybe after awhile she would consider it.

The father asked her, "Do you love this fellow?", the girl said yes. "Are you sure?", "Yes!" "How do you know you love this fellow? How do you know you love him?" She replied, "I feel so good about him, he is so good to me, he makes me feel all funny and flushed when he is around and I get these excited feelings. I know it is love, I have never felt this way before." "So, who is he and what does he do and how long have you known him. and what things does he like to do, and where does he like to go and does he go to church?" The answer is, "I don't know and it really does not matter, we will work things out as we go along."

Those reasons my friends ARE not good reasons to get married. We can not rely on our feelings. Feelings are so fickle and change from day to day. Feelings are like a river, they keep flowing, and day to day or hour to hour they can go off in another direction and are long gone. We can not rely on feelings except they were given to us to sense something that is very wrong or very right at the moment, like someone close to us, or danger lurking in the mists. They are only temporary and very fleeting.

Love is something that is built and grows. So the best results are to look for characteristics and qualities in the other person. No one is perfect and one hundred percent what one would expect, but we must look for the qualities that are best and close to what we can live with and also look for the imperfections to see if we can live with them. We must give time to test these qualities and characteristics. Some will change over time, some are fake, but most still are retained as habits that may not change.

We should learn about love and PONDER on how GOD loves us. We should read up (Bible)on how he loves us. Learn that love does not seek for itself, but to give to others and especially to a marriage partner, without selfish reasons. The more we give for the right reasons the more we get back for the right reasons. So Ponder on God's giving.

The next P is to PRAY for God's love so we can sense his love and so we can give his love to our marriage partner. When we think we are lacking in our love for our spouse, we need to ask God for guidance to be able to give more of our selfs in the right way. Our partner has certain love signals and we should consider what they consider love. We all have different ways and reactions we consider love. Someone might get a real hype from getting flowers and someone else candy. Someone else might be more practical and a jar of jelly will give a sense of real love. We must learn the love signals that turn on our partner and into a love machines and give that to them.To set the record straight, this is not about sex, sex is a small part of love, it is one of the acts of love, but not the only one. When people get older this act goes away for obvious reasons, we were not meant to give this type of love forever, we were to grow and give love in different ways. So learn to love in all areas and we will never feel without love. Show some love everyday. So Pray for God to show you the love signals of others.

The last P is to PRACTICE love. Love is not just a feeling, it is giving of ones self all the time and not just your body, By doing things and saying things, warm thoughts that emulated from you. Just being what you can be for your spouse. We have to get love from God and then give it out to those around us. Love is a feeling that is flitting, we must give it out every day, love is a giving away. The more we give away the more we get. We have to practice giving love to get love.

So remember the 3 P's and life will be loving.

God loves you!!! Just allow him to love you!